Tuesday, March 03, 2026
Just as we Shape Flex to strengthen our communication effectiveness, especially in challenging situations on a daily basis, we also flex naturally throughout life, somewhat matching the typical life stages. As we mature and our bodies and minds age, we begin to see life differently. As we grow older, the things that once seemed so important may no longer seem so vital. Another way of describing this change in perspective is Shape Evolution.
Shape Evolution can be defined as the various phases you experience throughout your life and how your Shape evolves as a result.
Here's what you need to know about the Evolved Box:
Note: Just as with any article or excerpt from our book, Communicating Beyond Our Differences, when we talk about a specific Shape, it’s important to remember that no one is just one Shape. If you are a primary Box, or you are thinking about someone who is a primary Box, consider how the secondary Shape might offset or alter any of what is described below for the Evolved Box.
As the years pass, the Box often finds themselves in a rut of their own making. Whether they are able to break out of this rut will determine whether or not the Box can evolve. It should be noted that many Boxes live and die in the maze of self-imposed ritual and routine. If the dissatisfaction grows strong enough, the Box may evolve in one of two directions. The first and most likely evolution involves an assimilation of Triangle traits.
The Box as “follower“ now emerges as a Triangular “leader.” Remember, the Box always possessed the knowledge, they merely lacked the focus and courage to act on it. The evolved Box transcends this character flaw and develops the inner strength to be decisive. If this Box person also develops the ability to communicate their decisions, then the evolved Box is in a fine position to move from a position of responsibility to one of authority.
The personal life of the Box is a different matter. A second evolution toward more Circular traits is possible within the Box. However, this can be excruciatingly painful for the unemotional, uninvolved Box. This growth on the personal level is often triggered by an external event: divorce, loss, or removal of a loved one. Suddenly, the stoic Box becomes aware of their need for human intimacy. This newly discovered dependence can be shattering. Deeply embedded emotions may surface and threaten to drown the inexperienced Box. Although painful, this is a necessary step in the Box’s evolution to becoming a more sensitive, affectionate, feeling human being. If the transformation is complete, the result is wonderful. After years of closing themselves off from others, the Box welcomes loved ones with open arms and happy tears. The reservoir of emotion is released, and the warm waves gently melt the iceberg. Loved ones who are thirsty for this affection are instantly satiated. The Box has evolved, their corners have been smoothed.
If you want to learn more about other PsychoGeometrics resources, including our online DIY modules, upcoming certification online classes, or how we can customize a team-building workshop for your group, feel free to reach out to me directly. Our team truly loves helping people leverage their Shapes for effective and influential communication!
Susan Hite, CEO, PsychoGeometrics, The Science of Behavior - The Art of Communication